I watched a fascinating documentary called “Don’t Call Me Stupid” recently. It featured a British TV Soap star, Kara Tointon. She was diagnosed with dyslexia at the age of 7 and the documentary followed her as an adult wanting to know more about the condition and see what help is available for her and others with the same condition.
By the end of the programme, Kara said she felt like she’d discovered her real self – imagine how my ears pricked up! She said that lots of the things she thought defined her as a person (eg being very untidy and disorganised) were actually symptoms of her dyslexia and now that she knew that, and was getting help to deal with them, a whole new understanding of who she was underneath all that was emerging.
And that led me on to thinking about how we define ourselves in terms of the things we DO rather than who we ARE. And more than that, how many of us define ourselves by what OTHER PEOPLE tell us we are, regardless of how biased their opinions might be.
Where has your idea of who you are come from?
Do you find yourself taking responsibility for everyone and everything because at some point in your childhood someone said “You’re the eldest, you have to look after the others”?
Did you get teased about some aspect of your appearance when you were at school, and so now think of yourself as unattractive?
Do you define who you are in terms of what job you do? How would you be different if you were to define yourself in terms of the things you enjoy doing in your spare time?
What’s to stop you from deciding to define yourself in a completely new way, right now?
It’s up to you to decide who the real you is – so who is it?
And what needs to happen for you to show the real you to the rest of the world?
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