Oh goody, I get to write this blog a second time because the first version somehow got lost in the post – that means this version will be EVEN BETTER than before, you lucky, lucky people!
(In case you don’t know, that’s an example of reframing where you turn something that has the potential to be a real pain in the behind into something wonderful. So next time the computer gobbles up something you’ve just spent ages creating, try very hard to figure out what good will come of it – and THEN reach for the sledgehammer and the gin…)
So, anyway, have you seen The King’s Speech yet and if not, why not? It is a FANTASTIC film with outstanding performances, photography, direction, costumes and script. It’s laugh out loud funny and will also make you weep silent tears, and IMHO Colin Firth and Geoffrey Rush give the performances of their lives.
But none of that is why I think you should go and see it.
I think you should go and see it because it contains some messages that are at the heart of what I believe, and when you hear and see them in the context of this marvellous film they come completely to life.
Those messages are (in no particular order):
- You don’t need to carry on being frightened of the things you were afraid of when you were 5
- You have a voice of your own and it has a right to be heard
- If you’re not allowed to express yourself, sooner or later you will become unable to express yourself
Are you still frightened of things from your past? Are you behaving in particular ways because of something someone said to you a long time ago? Chance remarks made by other people when we were much younger can have a massive impact on how we behave today, and if that’s true for you then you’ll want to ask yourself why you’re still living your life around the opinions of someone who’s no longer in your life.
How often does your real voice get heard? What are you not letting it say to you? What are you afraid of thinking? What thoughts and ideas do you have on a regular basis, that you tell yourself are silly or unrealistic or impossible? Next time those thoughts and ideas come to you, pay attention to them.
REALLY pay attention to them because that’s your True Self trying to get in touch and guide you towards a more fulfilling life.
And if you don’t express yourself because someone else doesn’t want you to – or because you’re FRIGHTENED that someone else doesn’t want you to – it’s time to examine that relationship.
YOU are the only person that has any right to tell you what to think and how to behave, and YOU are the only person who has the right to make decisions about YOUR life and how YOU will choose to live it.
So – is the voice of your True Self being heard, and if not, what are you going to do to let it out?
As always, please comment and let me know what you think.